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    Winners never quit!

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    Guest Post by Ken Keis of Consulting Resource Group

     

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    Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win!

    Quitter: One who quits; especially, one who gives up too easily; a defeatist.

    All of us at some time have wanted to quit on something or someone.

    Just yesterday, I was running in a 5 K race. I wanted so much to just walk for a bit, especially in the last mile. All the way to the end, I had to fight the urge to quit. It turns out that I won in my age category by only 2 seconds! If had walked even three steps, I would have lost that race.

    So, what are you? A winner or a quitter?

    If you quit, your life can be about a lot of near–misses and few victories.

    Quitting can apply to every part of our lives.

    Here are a few examples.

    Someone quits on a relationship because it is too much work to change. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, so we have a lot of quitters.
    You are difficult to work with and continue to change jobs, not because of poor companies but because you are a quitter.
    You start your wellness program but, a few weeks or months into it, you stop eating properly and/or working out. Over 90% of individuals quit their diets. Many excuses are made, but the fact is they quit.
    You submit your book proposal to a few agencies and publishers; they all reject your work so you quit trying.
    You submit your résumé to 50 job openings but no one hires you. You think why bother and quit looking.
    You get the picture.

    Many of life’s best success stories are about individuals who never quit—especially when their peers gave up.

    In the past, I did some speaking engagements for Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of the bestselling “Chicken Soup” series. Mark said that the first book written by himself and Jack Canfield was rejected by more than 25 publishers before their concept for Chicken Soup for the Soul was accepted.

    Can you imagine being one of the publishers who said No?

    Success was not immediate for Mark and Jack. After their book was published, they did a radio interview every day for over a year before Chicken Soup caught on with the reading public. In other words, they did not quit.

    Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was available for several years before it made the bestseller list.

    Abraham Lincoln faced many challenges, defeats, and failures before he became President of the United States in 1860—but he never quit.

    Nelson Mandela spent 27 years incarcerated as a political prisoner before he was released and became the President of South Africa in 1994. Most of us would have quit long before 27 years.

    I mentioned in my previous ezine that many times during the year it took to write my latest book, Why Aren’t You More Like Me?™ , I felt like quitting. Even though I felt like it, I did not.

    I don’t know what you are facing but, in most cases, quitting is not the answer. Last week, I met with a colleague in Orlando, Florida. He shared that just 2 months prior to our meeting, he was unable to walk after a recent stroke. According to his doctor, the only reason he is currently walking, with the assistance of a cane, is his unwillingness to quit.

    Quitting or not quitting is a choice and a reflection on the character of the individual. Rarely does it have to do with education, intelligence, or opportunity, but rather your level of persistence, tenacity, determination, and commitment to a vision or goal.

    Now even if you have quit on something or someone and feel guilty about it, you can always change your mind and get back on the track of success.

    There are exceptions, where changing or quitting is a preferred direction. Choosing not to do something because it does not match your purpose, passions, or values is something different than quitting on a goal or a dream or simply giving up on something you desire.

    All of us face challenges. It is our response to our challenges that separates the winners from the quitters.

    Review the Action Steps to strengthen your resolve to triumph and achieve.

    Action Steps

    Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win!

    1. Would you call yourself a winner or a quitter?     Why?
    2. In what area(s) of your life would you like to stop quitting and start winning? We all have some area we would like to improve.
    3. Think about an area in your life where you just never quit. Why and how are you able to persevere?
    4. What do you do to stay focused and move forward when you feel like quitting?
    5. In what area of your life did you quit and regret it? Why did you quit? Do you still want to achieve that goal?
    6. Winners have no fewer challenges than quitters, but they make a decision to keep going. You can make the decision right now in one area of your life, you will not quit . . . no matter what!
    7. Success breeds success and failure feeds failure. If you have been quitting, focus on one area where you will stay on course and not quit. Use your success and fulfillment from that area to leverage other areas of your life.
    8. Not quitting comes from a deep desire to achieve and a strong connection to your goal or dream. Go back to What’s Your Vision and lock in your vision of what it takes to become a winner.

    Clarify your values and style using CRG’s Values Preference Indicator and Personal Style Indicator. They can help you make values-based decisions as you develop yourself and play to your strengths. To help you engage life on your terms, read Why Aren’t You More Like Me?
    Let go of any past failure. Learn from it and move on. Holding on to the past will not help you shape a bright future.
    Encourage and help others to keep going when they want to quit. Your words to them will help you in your times of doubt.
    Enjoy the journey along the way. It is the fullness of our experiences—not simply the achievement of a goal—that makes us who we are. Here’s to us all being Winners, not quitters.

    1. To clarify your values and style, complete the CRG’s Values Preference Indicator (VPI) and
    2. the Personal Style Indicator (PSI) to get to know yourself better so you are less influenced by others.
    3. To understand how your level of self-worth is affecting your success, complete theSelf-Worth Inventory.
    4. To help you understand your tendencies and what is important to you, read Why Aren’t You More Like Me?“!

    Your life or business is your own to live.

    Until next time, keep Living On Purpose.


    Ken Keis

    For information on CRG Resources, please visit http://www.crgleader.com/home.

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    Be A Winner

     

    Do You Have the Mindset of a Winner?

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    Winner:    One who wins; one who is successful, especially through praiseworthy ability and hard work; a victor, especially in games and life

     

    Are you a winner?


    The answer is Yes—but only if you want to be!

     

    • Being a winner is a choice, not a condition of your circumstances.

     

    In today’s turbulent times, many want to blame everyone else for their condition or situation. Admittedly, there is a lot of blame to go around in terms of corporate misconduct—but what does that mean for each of us?

    At every moment, we can choose to let our circumstances shape our lives or we can shape our circumstances.

    Winners don’t get hung up on what could have been. We are not into time travel yet. Worrying about the past is counterproductive.

    Yes, others’ conduct has traumatized the global economic foundation. Regardless, we all need to own our space. Participating in a protest is not going to get you work or a career.

     

    • Winners take responsibility for the life they created.

     

    I know it might difficult to assume responsibility for our condition but that is essential to a winner’s mindset. Last month during a documentary on the US financial/real estate meltdown, a reporter was interviewing owners and lenders. Not one person took any responsibility for our current mess.

    One women had borrowed (been given is a better description) over $1.8 million in loans for multiple properties and she was in default. Her monthly income was $1500 per month. When she was asked by the reporter how she had contributed to the rocky financial situation in the US, she denied she had played any part in it. It was all the bank’s fault for lending her the money.

    The loans officer at the bank blamed the mandate set by the executives to increase sales, no matter what! so he maintained his hands were clean!

    The reality is, both are at fault.
    To truly be winners, they both must take responsibility for the situation.

     

    Winners know their purpose.

     

    After I had conducted a recent seminar, an individual asked me what if he did not have a purpose and therefore did not know what he wanted? My response was that everyone has a purpose or calling. You just need to find out what it is.

    Our life leaves clues. We must pay attention to the evidence.

    When you are a true winner, you are living a fully engaged life. In our experience at CRG, that is achievable only when you are living your purpose.

    Winners embrace that truth and seek to align their choices and their life accordingly.

     

    Winners focus on what they want, not what they don’t want.

     

    Dreams and hope are two of the most powerful concepts winners can embrace. The law of attraction is a real, working, nonnegotiable principle.

      • You can’t have wellness and health if you are always worried about sickness and injury.
      • You won’t have wealth if you are always worried about being broke.
      • You won’t find a job or a career if you keep thinking nobody will hire you.

    Document exactly what you want! It is very difficult to attract unknown results. In fact, ambiguity will lead to confusion, not clarity.

    Included in this step is that your language—the words coming out of your mouth—MUST reflect the outcome you desire . . . not the current situation you are in. What you put your attention on will increase. There simply is no way avoid that principle.

    If you are broke, you won’t improve the situation by saying you have no money. That will just keep you in poverty.

    If you are ill, talking about how sick you are will not improve your wellness. Norman Cousins proved that in his book, The Anatomy of an Illness.

    If you say you can’t find a job and that comes to pass, don’t be surprised. Focus—think and speak—only about what you want!

     

    Persistence is mandatory.

     

    Winners realize setbacks are part of the winning process.

    Never giving up is a requirement for winning. Last week at my son’s ball game, one of his team members missed catching an easy flyball. Then, instead of chasing after the ball, he quit trying. That resulted in two additional runs for the other team.

    When Colonel Sanders of KFC fame first approached the marketplace with his secret recipe, he was rejected by over 60 restaurants. He resorted to sleeping in his car until he found success.

    Winners keep going—no matter what.

     

    Winners surround themselves with other winners.

     

    As noted in many of our previous ezines (like last month, about toxic people), you take on the characteristics and values of the company and friends you keep. It’s difficult if not impossible to succeed or become a winner if you are hanging around with losers.

    Whether you like it or not, the language and conduct of the people around you influence you. Choose to have supportive and successful mentors and friends.

    You must take the position that it does not matter what others say.

    You control your own destiny!

    The reality is that many individuals don’t take responsibility for their own condition and they won’t be supportive of your goals and dreams, either. As a winner, don’t share your dreams with those types of people; they will try to talk you out of your future!

     

    Choose winners for friends.

    Winners own their space and take proactive action steps.
    Here are a few for you to consider.

    To help you on your journey of winning, I recommend several CRG resources. My 88-page workbook, My Source EXPERIENCE Journal™, will take you on a personal discovery of enlightenment and affirmation to increase your winning ways.

    As building blocks, I also suggest the Values Preference Indicator,Self-Worth Inventory, Stress Indicator and Health Planner, and the Personal Style Indicator.

    Follow these Action Steps and complete the recommended resources, to help you increase your confidence and your winning ways.

    Action Steps

    Do You Have the Mindset of a Winner?

      1. Being a winner is a choice. It has nothing to do with your circumstances. Are you choosing this very moment to be a winner? Your answer should be Yes!

     

      1. Take responsibility for your life and the condition of it. Have you done that? Would people say you take responsibility for your life and the condition it’s in? Are you happy with your answer to that question?

     

      1. Are you clear about your life purpose and calling? If not, get on with this step. Knowing who you are is critical to the winner’s mindset.

     

      1. Once you know who you are, do you know where you are going? Are your dreams and goals clear?

     

      1. Focus on what you want—not what you don’t want. You manifest what you think and talk about. It is nearly impossible to be a winner while worrying about all the things that can go wrong.

     

      1. Do people call you persistent? Winners never give up on their dreams or calling, no matter what. Often, the difference between losers and winners is the character trait of persistence.

     

      1. Do you surround yourself with other winners? You must avoid toxic people, as we discussed in last month’s ezine.

     

      1. Every person has a purpose. 

     

      1. Benchmark your current condition with assessments. 

     

     

    1. Yes, you are a winner. And, with a winner’s mindset, you will feel fulfilled and able to become fully engaged in your life . . . and contribute much to many!

    Until next time, keep Living On Purpose!

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